Vanessa Neuhaus, MS, LMFT, LIMHP
Experienced Couples Therapist
Certified EMDR Therapist
What is "Sikhona?"
The word “Sikhona” (si:’kɔh:nah) is a part of how members of the Zulu tribe in South Africa greet one another. Whereas we here in the States might say, “Hey!” or “How are you?” the Zulu say, “Sawabona,” which means “I see you.”
What a beautiful thing to be seen. In therapy, we’ve come to understand one of the deepest points of pain for people is feeling unseen and unknown. To be seen and acknowledged can cultivate a profound sense of belonging and personhood.
Perhaps even more profound is the traditional response: “Sikhona,” which loosely translates to, “I am here (to be seen).”
Can you imagine what that would feel like to have that exchange with someone? A loved one? Even a stranger? Our culture at Sikhona is built around therapists who aim to truly see each of their clients and celebrate their inherent humanity and value.
"Sikhona" honors the belief that "I did not exist until you saw me." Indeed, we are who we are in the context of our relationships, and when we are seen by others, fully present, we truly come to life.